I Want A Big Hug That Breaks All My Doubts

With hugs, our bodies release hormones that help us calm down. We feel confident and can strengthen the bonds with our loved ones.

Emotional doubts, the uncertainty of not feeling loved can be one of the greatest sources of human suffering. 

There is no age to experience this sensation. Every child has an emotional radar to perceive whether tenderness is genuine or not, and every adult feels at some point doubts, and fears which gradually break their inner balance.

We are often told that the most important thing is to love yourself. We cannot forget, however, that we need genuine emotional connections in order to feel good and to be happy.

This is why hugs are always healthy gestures, human connections that we should not neglect.

Doubts are voids of the soul

There are many different doubts. Some of them are part of our human condition. They also help us to grow because they are gaps that we try to fill with the help of personal reinforcements.

These are, for example, doubts about:

• The professional path to take.
• Friendships to maintain and friendships to be let go.
• Interests or disciplines that we would like to master or understand.

We refer above all to the mysteries which are part of our personal development and which allow us to be stronger concerning our aptitudes and our values.

But the biggest problem is when we feel emotional doubts. So we’ll talk to you about it.

The most destructive emotional doubts

• We can spend a lot of time as a couple, spend several years of stability and happiness, and all of a sudden we feel that doubts appear.
• The fact of not knowing if our spouse continues to love us …
• To perceive that we have lost some magic, a certain bond. See, for example, that we have lowered the curtains of routine, to the point where we take everything for granted, down to love.

They are clear enemies against the engagement and stability of the couple.

Something must be taken into account: emotional doubts are not exclusive to couples’ relationships.

As we told you at the beginning, doubt is a psychological dimension that any child or adult can experience.

• In the case of children, it can be traumatic. The child who does not feel loved and united by an emotional bond with his parents, develops insecurity and low self-esteem.

The psychological impact this can have in the long run can be very serious.

It is necessary to strengthen our daily relationships, to work on the bond with loved ones, our spouse and our children.

A good way to do this is by practicing this generous act that doesn’t need words:  Hugs.

Hugs as therapeutic agents

Emotional voids lodge in the heart. The pain of doubts, hesitations, fear of abandonment, loneliness, are part of this organ that suffers and in the brain dominated by stress, which changes our emotions and produces alterations in our body. .

Hugs and oxytocin

To better understand the effect of hugs, we’ll give you an example. Imagine a couple who do not see each other for a few weeks. Work, children and worries make the relationship cool.

• The fear of finding out that we are no longer loved by our spouse causes the biochemistry of our brain to change. Levels of cortisol, dopamine, norepinephrine increase… And we fall into a very dangerous state of stress.

• According to various studies, such as the one published in the journal News in Health, hugs cause a complete transformation in brain chemistry.

• In this example, if at a given moment, the couple stops, we look each other in the eyes, we hug each other intensely and authentically. No need for words. Instantly, the brain rewards with a high dose of oxytocin, the hormone of tenderness, compassion and love.

We are programmed to recognize hugs as a symbol of well-being

As a species, we instinctively recognize what is healthy for us. Thus, the brain gratifies us by offering us endorphins and oxytocin.

• The touch of the skin, a caress, kind words, intense and sincere hugs are cathartic gestures that relieve fears, doubts, stress and anxiety.
• In addition, they have a benefit on physical and emotional health that no other medicine can match, because it unites us with our own, and it nourishes the umbilical cord of love and gratitude.
• Today, it is necessary to sow simple acts, full of reciprocity.

A few hours with our children playing, caressing them and making them laugh, are simple moments that create entire universes.

So tell us… how many hugs did you have today? Maybe not enough …