Do Not Renounce Love, But Those Who Did Not Know How To Love You

Instead of renouncing love, learn to love yourself first so as not to having to beg for affection from others and end up making bad choices.

Love is a very beautiful feeling that everyone deserves to know. However, during these experiences, you surely suffered, and you were harmed. However, do not give up on love, that would be a big mistake.

Better to give up all those who do not know how to love you as you deserve. You can also give up making the same mistakes by letting yourself be dominated by expectations and ideals that eventually crumble over time.

Love can do a lot of harm when fed on addiction, jealousy, abuse or possession and insecurity.

Therefore, it is important that you do not give up love, but rather what you thought it was until now.

Don’t confuse love with toxic relationships

Sometimes the people who suit us the least are the ones we care about the most.

We idealize them from the start of the relationship: but what happens over time? Everything changes, nothing seems the same or maybe we don’t see them the same anymore?

Sometimes when you feel something very strong for someone, it’s like you’ve gone blind. All of a sudden, those around us are telling us it’s not good for us, but we still believe that everyone is wrong.

We blindfold ourselves believing that the phrase “they lived happily with love and fresh water” can come true. But finding Prince Charming or Princess from Thousand and One Nights is still a real challenge today.

In fact, although we often meet people with whom we end up forming toxic bonds, who cover the word “love” with pain, that doesn’t mean that it always is.

We must learn to let go of the hopes and dreams that only come true in the movies. But don’t give up on love.

In real life, there is no prince or princess. What we’re going to meet instead are people who can hurt us a lot if, from the start, we close our eyes instead of opening them.

What does love mean to you? 

We spoke to you previously about princes and princesses, but what about the “soul mate”? Or to “meet your other half”? These are more modern concepts, but they are still extremely harmful.

The company instills in us the need to find a partner, because it is synonymous with success. However, calling the other person “their other half” can make us see love as it really isn’t.

Many people face emotional addiction every day of their life. A very difficult issue to resolve.

You surrender to the other person, you think you are nothing without them. Sorry ? But who were you before you first met her?

Getting attached to someone is not love, and depending on someone even less. Love is free and it should allow you to grow. When it tires, exhausts, causes suffering, despairs… It is not love, believe us, it is quite another thing.

It is your fears that stand out, your insecurities, your fear of loneliness.

Sometimes you start a relationship not because you are attracted to the other person, but because you are relieved to find someone who has noticed you, who loves you, and is willing to be with you.

Pay attention. Sooner or later, you will suffer and if you do not realize it, you will end up multiplying the meetings one after the other …

Each of them will be twice as painful as the previous one. We are not on this Earth to suffer. Are we going to begin to free ourselves from the pain of a misconception of love?

Love is not synonymous with struggle let alone suffering – Do not give up on love

Don’t give up on true love, give up on the one that causes you pain, and stop crying every night for someone who is not really worth it.

You think this is so because you have made that person the center of your world.

However, when you open your eyes and look back at the situation, you realize that it wasn’t worth it, that the other person didn’t deserve so much suffering and giving of self.

So, do not reject love, only reject people with whom you cannot forge a healthy relationship, either because there are things you need to improve or because these people cannot give you anything.

There are people whose mistaken idea of ​​love means that they don’t know how to love. You may have already met a lot of them.

Whatever your situation, never give up on love.

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